If money were no object, what would you do and/ or have? And who would you need to be to achieve it?
Why are we so obsessed with money? It literally sends us not just to the one, but to various nth degrees of destructive behaviour and for what? How often do we read news about some poor soul who has committed suicide over debt or bankruptcy, worse still has taken somebody else’s life in its pursuit? It’s such a crazy ridiculous aspect of being human, but we are so wrapped up in the capital C of cash that we have zero awareness about how far it is forcing us into our own demise.
Odd that I should start this piece with a borderline rant given my previous three blogs have been about financial freedom. Consequently, I mean to refer to and open up new perspectives into greater awareness and understanding of money and the way in which an individual relates to it. It seems to me that it is more about the freedom and much less about the finances. Albeit, not possible to get away with totally ignoring the latter to any favourable end. Like I have said, the golden ticket to transformation in any area of life is to get what is so. You have to take stock, regardless.
It’s about our behaviour and mindset around money, primarily the aspects that relate to us directly. There are conversations that we inherit from our environment, which begin in the family and grow from there. We develop habits around spending, saving and general management based on this knowledge. Not many of us are formally taught how to deal with it. It’s not something found in the school curriculum either, although it perhaps should be.
Notwithstanding, are the news headlines about austerity plans, the current or latest financial crash or credit crunch. When we hear and read about these matters we react. We either passively shrug our shoulders, grumble into our breakfast plate and push on hoping things will somehow improve. Otherwise we are more active, we’re looking for the gaps to fill for new ventures as entrepreneurs, what is best to invest in or where we should be saving. In either scenario, we must remain aware and stay abreast of current and financial affairs and notice how big business remain in business. They are still building, still avoiding taxes and still starting new ventures. That’s not to say it is easy for small businesses, social entrepreneurs and start-ups once we are aware of these things, but what is evident is that there is money out that and that there are always opportunities to capitalise on.
The best time to plant a tree was twenty years ago. The second best time is now. ~ Chinese proverb
As I mentioned it is the personal conversations that are at first crucial. About five years ago I was sub-contracted to deliver some business/ coaching salons for a client, one of which was about money. My clients would arrive expecting a lecture about how to budget and would leave pleasantly surprised and hopefully somewhat educated about how better they could deal with their finances. In preparing the workshop my own finances demanded to be examined and in creating this idea of money as energy and listening to Law of Attraction pioneers such as Esther Hicks, Jack Canfield and Rev. Michael Beckwith I noticed my own internal dialogues. One of the unexpectedly significant, was how I approached an ATM. Regardless of how healthy my bank account was I found myself praying that I would be able to make a withdrawal. I literally approached the machine with dread, which was hardly bringing good and positive energy to the circumstances. I knew I had to switch things up and rebranded the prayer into a positive affirmation about moving energy around. I brought some ease and freedom to it and completely transformed things. It was no longer a mini ordeal to withdraw cash from an ATM and by way of this small action I achieved somewhat of a great financial year.
We can literally be forcing ourselves into our own monetary demise without even realising it. Even when we reign it back from the extremes that might also include, stealing, swindling and other forms of lying and cheating, what about how we cheat ourselves? When I first started out as a coach eight years ago I would get really frustrated to hear my clients say they first needed to concentrate on their debts. Once they had done that, then they could start working on their long term goals. Totally not the way to go about transforming an area of your life, money or otherwise.
What you resist, will persist. ~Carl Jung
The focus needs to transcend the circumstances otherwise we create blocks to our success. If the goal is to travel and the focus is on the lack of money then what will show up is more of the latter. Investing in a travel guide and reading it, checking flight routes and prices, googling things to do in the country of choice, asking friends about their experiences. This is the ground work to fulfilling on a goal such as this. Our long term goals usually comprise of our life’s ambitions. Why would you want to put them on hold? Especially when you truly, do not need to. Tim Ferriss has been a huge advocate of living for now and has created the concept as well as the practise of ‘mini retirements.’ This means not waiting until you are in the latter part of your life to take up activities that will provide you with enjoyment, satisfaction, fulfilment and that may even be life-changing.
So, go ahead and create your dream life, long-term goal or ambition. If money were no object, what would you do and/ or have? And who would you need to be to achieve it? Let’s start a conversation in the comments below. You can email me if you get stuck firstname.lastname@example.org
In the meantime, don’t get yourself hemmed in and stuck focused on the money. It’s a sure fire route to destruction and feeling dissatisfied and unfulfilled in your life. Know that you have the power to overcome any circumstance and that money is just that, a circumstance. Go big and create something positive to put your focus on. Vision is everything.
Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved. ~Helen Keller